Originally Posted by papercut_ninja
Originally Posted by Silver/
If a player character can *emotionally* react in two ways to the same scene, after all, it's only logical that both reactions be somewhat "valid". If both are valid, both are a reasonable response. What would it say about the romance if fear is a reasonable response? That's it abusive. It's natural some people will be vehemently against the inclusion. Having it even be optional is indeed a direct violation of their headcanon. A win-win for everyone is not reasonably possible. Even if you hide the trigger behind a one time dialogue choice, some people will be angry. The knowledge that's it's a supported reading of the same romance they're playing is not something they're able to ignore.

So, like I said, if someone else is going to play with my toy, they have to play with it my way or they can't have it.

As I said earlier, there are several dialogue options to roleplay being scared of Astarion and the sensible action is to break up with him. Astarion explains to you what you're getting yourself into. Tav being scared of Astarion and then asking for a kiss and being terrified of him every single time to the same degree doesn't make sense. If you're scared of dogs, do you go around petting them or don't touch them and try to stay away from them? If you're scared of mice, do you go to the pet shop and buy one for yourself? Even in a weird scenario where Tav was somehow horrified by his kisses and wanted to repeatedly perform them regardless, their fear would get reduced after each kiss, since they'd know what to expect.