Except that’s not true at all. Narratively, there is nothing to suggest that doing so is safe for our character if we’ve already become his spawn. As soon as the tadpole is gone, he could hunt Tav down and use compulsions just like Cazador did to his spawn. And if the narrative doesn’t agree with me, then why the hell do we have an actual abuse dialogue chain where Tav can be intimidated into not breaking up with him?
Please give a clear example of what kind of abuse dialogue (quotations preferred) you are talking about? I think it would be helpful