Regarding Astarion, this is one of those things where Larian shouldn't have listened to the handful of people who couldn't stop talking about it.
Some feedback is good. Some ruins the game by inserting personal kinks into the narrative. The story, including the cycle of abuse, should come first. Unfortunately...
Cycle of abuse that never happened on game release, woah. The power of imagination is so strong. How good is that my emotional state is being protected by Marazhai from RT, hehe.