Originally Posted by Ametris
Astarion repeatedly makes sure that Tav knows they are not like the others. He tells them they're both better than them. Tav doesn't order him around either, he's fine with them asking for things and pampering them. They're his treasure, after all. Everything he does for Tav, is of his own free will.

The fact that he lets Tav become the ruler makes it crystal clear that he lets them do what they want. He also doesn't want to break up with Tav like UA does after cheating on him with Mizora.

If you want to discuss how he feels about Tav, I think it may be better to move this to a Story & Character discussion thread, or end it here and agree to disagree. Those discussions tend to go on endlessly, and I think we've now both made our opinions clear on whether changing the kisses in that way would make sense or not.