Originally Posted by Ametris
Yes, he wants to rule together, but it doesn't mean that Tav has to go along with it. He's putting immense trust in them. He has to be prepared for some power play, he also jokes about Durge sitting on his lap when they threaten him. He doesn't mind being challenged in some instances and even finds it funny. How is him putting his life in somebody's hands ok but him having a problem with being asked for a gentler kiss not?

Then you could also say it doesn't make sense he won't let Tav go when they ask for freedom. There are limits to what he will do for Tav, and I personally think being told what to do would be one of them.
(I think we're getting off topic from the request for different expressions again, but I am open to talking more about this. Do you want to move this to the Astarion thread over in the Character discussion section, or just agree to disagree?)