Originally Posted by AnnaMyrk
slightly abusive/threatening. Which of these justifies fear or dread during kissing? I still don't get it. He's just grumbling.

I'm sorry, if you really think "abusive" means "just grumbling", I don't know how to have this conversation. I think we'll just have to agree to disagree.

Originally Posted by AnnaMyrk
And I say again, the AA I've known for 5 patches would just kiss your Tav gently, not kiss him against his will, seeing that Tav is scared.

And that's fine. It's also fine if someone has a different interpretation and doesn't think the kisses were ever out of character.

Originally Posted by AnnaMyrk
Forced upon you an interpretation that has been in the game for 5 patches in a row? I'm sorry, how did you play before patch 6?

I'm not sure what the question is here? It has never before been decided for me that my character would love being choked or told to kneel out of nowhere when they ask for a kiss.

Originally Posted by AnnaMyrk
How should kissing that you find offensive help you avoid the triggers? When a tender kiss is much more in line with the request? My trigger is rewriting a character on the fly.

What can be triggering is the jarring dissonance between what we see in the kisses and Tav's reactions to them. You don't have to understand why a narrative was important to someone or why something is triggering for another person to respect it. If you really want to understand, maybe it would help to stop constantly assuming malicious intentions or sexual motives on our part.