Thank you, Anska. You said it much better than me! We're all just operating off of our own interpretation of the text. Tone, meaning, body language, motivation, are things that are interpretation when it comes to text and static/written characters.
"It's fine if you want to headcanon that but what I think is canon" isn't helpful in discussion. It's akin to, "you can make believe whatever you want, but it's wrong. Only my read is legitimate." We're all just here sharing our interpretation!
