Now I've seen the update in full - I'm glad the fans were heard and Larian realized what was wrong, agreed with the feedback.
I still have a small suggestion to do rough - gentle as in turning night.

Considering there is no acceptable quest in the game to understand and explore these manners in Astarion.
This setting on release in an intimate scene was a wise good decision to make people feel comfortable. And also brought some needed balance to Astarion.
There wasn't much of that in the fanservice for February 14.

I also have a strong opinion on the option in the kisses for AA - a scared face or neutral (like the “dead inside” hints used, dissociation) in the intimate stuff should not be there. It would just make Astarion a
sexual abuser
with an option.
If he acts like Tav is fine with it - it looks like enjoying Tav's suffering.
This removes the complexity, the dilemma of the path in both cases.

It would be the same kind of character assassination that February 14 was.
And assassination of the original intimacy scenario with Astarion, where everyone consented and if they consented, enjoyed it.

I really hope this damage doesn't happen on the next February 14, Christmas or any other day, by patch or hotfix.

I feel like I will only thank Larian from the bottom of my heart when I see the finished work.