this is not the debate though. the debate is about the facial expressions. what you suggest still removes the agency to decide whether or not you like the new behaviour from AA which can only be conveyed through the facial expressions. only because he has a gentler kiss, does not mean tav likes the relationship. that is why the facial expressions were praised in the first place and needed to be added. adding a kiss from patch 5 will still force the player and character into the narrative that they like it because both will be smiling.
edit: also sorry to everyone who doesnt like the animations for AA kisses, but i think changing those will be an even greater problem and will lead to even more outrage. honestly at this point, sometimes i am even sorry to have brought up the suggestions at all. i will personally just live with whatever facial expressions tav shows, i dont care. but changing the animations themselves i will definitely not agree with.