I'm just saying that the viewpoint that having an abusive context in an AA affair and the fact that he says abusive things under certain circumstances doesn't make scared faces valid by default. Yes, he may say abusive things and not let Tav leave in the epilogue, but that doesn't mean he's going to physically abuse Tav.
That is one hell of a way to say emotional abuse is less bad than physical abuse. so he says abusive things (your own words) and Tav being scared is NOT valid. But then smiling is? Wow. Okay. Also never said he is physically abusive. Neck grabbing is meh could be interpreted both ways. That’s why tavs expression matters.