Hey new user.
Did you happen to see this rule when you signed up:
Do not attempt to incite conversation around existing or past community drama or antecedent infighting.
It's unfortunate that you feel other people are being dismissive and demeaning on other platforms, but discussions here have largely moved on from such drama.
If you are interested in a sincere discussions in good faith about story and romance choices where you are willing to accept that we can have different personal views and perspectives, lots of users, such as myself, will happily engage with the topic. But just as you have the right to your own interpretation and feelings regarding the portrayal of different characters and their actions, so does everyone else.
papercut_ninja has already done my job for me

I have removed the link to the Reddit post, to limit the breach of our rule about not inciting conversation around community infighting, but as long as the ongoing discussion focuses on sharing personal views of Shadowheart’s romance, and remains friendly, calm and respectful of different perspectives and preferences, we’ll be good.
I’ll also note that this is a topic on which we’re never all going to agree and that’s absolutely fine. But it does mean that at some point we need to agree to disagree, so let’s please be mindful of this and recognise when we’ve made our point and not get tempted into keeping repeating ourselves or talking in circles.