I was wondering, since you bring up Durge a lot, do you usually have more in-depth conversations about what happens in your quest with your butler?
Yeah, I'm currently going through a playthrough with Durge for the first time and it's offering a lot of direct comparison to my last Tav playthrough.
For some odd reason, I've noticed that in comparison to other Durge playthroughs I've seen for a resisting Durge, I actually did not get certain scenes I have seen with others before. Must be some awkward Long Rest timing causing you to straight up skip certain camp events at times. When it comes to the butler specifically, I don't think I've had a single dialogue option with companions to talk about the fact that I have this weird butler popping up in camp sometimes. Normally after refusing to kill Isobel or your companion in act 2, your butler is supposed to throw a fit early on in act 3 at camp and dramatically leave your side as you've defied him and Bhaal too many times, but I didn't see him a single time before entering Bhaal's temple where he was very welcoming. I think I have at most had the opportunity to say some one-liners in conversations with NPCs, the rest of the time it's as if he never existed.
In total I've had... the butler encounter with the dead bard in act 1, then after meeting Isobel I had the butler telling me to kill her, then after saving Nightsong and not killing Isobel I had the butler telling me to kill my romantic partner, then after refusing that he showed up at the entrance to Bhaal's temple. Aside from choosing some Durge specific intimidates, I've resisted the urge every chance I was given. From what I understand, with some patches they've mostly added things to a Durge embracing the urge, but the resisting variant is rather underdeveloped in comparison in my experience.
The nicest parts are probably the Jaheira and Minsc specific things, like having some Durge nightmares early in act 3 and waking up to find them watching over you and reminiscing about their time with a previous Bhaalspawn that successfully overcame their urges.