Aren't all the blorbos pookies in BG3 fandom?
The behaviour you call contemporary is anything but. It's routed in inequality and the second part in not being allowed to voice your desires for fear of being chastised. Which is also what is going on in Shadowheart's case. She loves nature, animals and wants close connections but her Sharran "upbringing" and the wound on her hand tell her to abstain from these things.
Tell me honestly - would you date a drug-addicted, abusive, aggressive guy? Or any other personality you find repulsive. You'll probably guess where this question is heading - but answer honestly anyway.
As everyone else here said multiple times, it's fine if Shadowbae isn't to your liking, it was the statement that she doesn't fit into the world that I contested.
And you still haven't managed to write what you want from a video game romance but a submissive, pretty human girl that may or may not get spicy in the bedroom and who sees you as the lighthouse of her life.
Anyway ...
That's so cool! I'll never do a playthrough as one of the origin characters myself, but it's very interesting to know the additions/changes can be this big. I imagine with Tara eating the messenger pigeons in Rivington, Gale is far less surprised to see her there, then? Or is Tara more of a projection throughout until Gale physically encounters her there?
She joins you in camp during your first Long Rest to make sure Gale is alright and bring him an artefact for when the Orb gets hangry (and to get her pets) Good timing too, because for Avatar-Gale the orb requires its first item the morning after, forcing you to either endure or feed it your new evasion ring - or the Everburn Blade in my case. Tara stays in camp until you reach Rivington, when she goes adventuring on her own. You have some dialogue variations with her on the temple roof and if you find her thrice in the Lower City, she will return to camp to join you for the quest finale.
And thank you for sharing so much about your Durge-experience. I am not sure if I can force me to give it another go, but it's great to read what other players think and like about it. The detail that your character basically forms from your decisions against Bhaal's plan is lovely.