i've ran into a party member with a bug and can't level up twice now being Astarion not sure how to fix this it keeps saying choice pending and everything i pick it still won't let me level up.

another problem is the BG3 mod manager keeps downloading mods i uninstall/unsubscribe to

i have like 230ish mods and not sure what to keep and what to get rid of.
what is the max amount of mods i should really have on this game ?

i've probably wasted 100hrs of time because multiple bugged playthroughs and not sure how to fix any of it.