In a regular playthrough of BG3 of 60-100 hours you would encounter perhaps 10 minutes of on screen smut. Out of a 1000+ hours in the game I have spent less than 1 hour watching sex or smut on the screen. I appreciate that the intimacy brings more layers to the characters and adds to their personality, but I think it generates a very disproportionate amount of discourse and most of that discourse simply boils down to that people like and enjoy different things and if you don't enjoy it, you can just say "no thanks, I'll pass".