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#307820 03/06/05 06:57 PM
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I'm so sad and troubled <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/puppyeyes.gif" alt="" />

Ok here's my story... it's one that really happened and just very recently too.
I met someone through this forum, and I liked her very much. We started PM'ing and after some time we added each other on MSN. She was a very joyfull person, we chit-chatted a lot and had LOTS of laughs <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/alien.gif" alt="" />

Over time we become very close friends.

but now..... <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cry.gif" alt="" />

i'm sorry, I'm having a really difficult time with it because she was such a good friend...

She kinda just vanished. She ignores me (I'm guessing she blocked me on MSN because I don't see her online anymore) and broke all contact. I REALLY miss her and her laughs and stories <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />
Apparentely she heard some stuff about me via PM's on this forum that appear to be total lies and absolutely untrue. Even stuff has been made up to make me look bad. I heard this through other people that also know her.
I'm really saddened now because this friendship has been broken by some [nocando] (him or her, I don't know) and I can't seem to make her think otherwise (I send messages via the people that also know her).

Anyway, bottomline is: I lost a friend through gossips and lies (hence my reply in 'forum news' thread) and I thought this was a nice community. Apparentely it also has some very rotten apples.

I just wanted all of you people to hear about it. I always considered myself a respected member of this community (which how I think about most other people as well), turns out I'm not. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />

A very saddened Viper <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cry.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />


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I just wanted all of you people to hear about it. I always considered myself a respected member of this community (which how I think about most other people as well), turns out I'm not. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />

A very saddened Viper <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/cry.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />

I feel sorry for you Viper.
Yes you are a respected member of this community ! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/XmasJump.gif" alt="" />
If this person left you because of gossips, she is completely wrong. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />
Please anonymous come back !

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Viper, honestly there is nothing that annoys or disturbes me of you in anyway, you've been a perfect community member and I don't know why ppl would gossip about you. I never cared much for gossip and I'll never take part of any such backstabbing. I hear a lot about gossip lately and it saddens me, any gossip coming my way will simply be ignored.

What made her leave, and break contact with you is unclear and it would be sad if it were to be the gossip, I hope she realizes what she did is foolish for the both of you.

To all who do gossip, stop beeing a bunch of schoolgirls! let your tail rise from between your legs and face the ones whatever problems you may have with. This should be easier here than in real life, wich makes gossip on forums even worse.


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Viper, I am really sorry to hear about all of the trouble you are having and that
you've lost a very close friend because of some things that have happened on the
forum. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />

I know how you feel because I have lost some friends that meant alot to me because
of some things that have happened too. I hope that some how, some way that the
two of you will be able to work through the problem and that one day soon that
you and your friend will be able to put all of this behind you and be friends
again.

Take care and know that you are not alone and that people do care about you. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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I always considered myself a respected member of this community (which how I think about most other people as well), turns out I'm not. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />


I can reassure that you still are. You only were away a bit. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" />

But apart from that I'm currently more or less clueless - so I cannot give any advice ... (Who can give advice about a thing he doesn't understand ? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/winkwink.gif" alt="" /> )

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hey Viper,

u have my friendship & support, if they mean anything to u.

i think your friend is still somewhat traumatised by the whole thing (i think)so u need to give her some time & space to recover.

i know this is very hard for u but please hang on. as your friendship is as strong as u described, she will come back to be your friend again. because u care so much, u are a true friend. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

so keep your chin up. smile with hope. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />



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I agree with whan everyone else has written. I know how hard friends are to get, so when you loose someone because of someone else gossiping about you to her, that rea su... that's not very funny...

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i think your friend is still somewhat traumatised by the whole thing (i think)so u need to give her some time & space to recover.

i know this is very hard for u but please hang on. as your friendship is as strong as u described, she will come back to be your friend again. because u care so much, u are a true friend. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I completely agree with janggut.
Be patient. Time always help to solve this kind of problem.

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Eh? What? Who?
One thing i can guarantee you Vip' is that the person you were friendly with will be more confused than you !
Gossip is a horrible thing, knowing what to do about it is even worse, but sharing your worries is a good thing, you will get lots of advice, some good some bad, mull it over and take your time...time is a good healer,one thing i would advise is don't name names even if think you are sure who is the culprit, deal with it on a personal level otherwise you will succombe to their standards.
Anyway I'm prattaling on here a bit here....good luck to ya mate. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/wave.gif" alt="" />


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@ Viper
I'm sorry to hear that. But you have all my support.
I know what gossips can do to people. <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />



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Viper as far as I am concerned you still are a respectable member of the forum. And I agree with Barta. If someone believes the bad things other people say for you, then it is not realy your friend. However I am very sorry that there are people in here that speak bad about people that are members for years and they have proven good people. I wish this would stop.
You have my support and my sympathy.
Your friend
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As always I feel the need to say something, to help you out, however it has all been said in the previous posts, thus I can only add my support to your feelings and assure you that eventually all will turn out OK, you will learn a few things the person in question will learn a few things and above all, the Malingerer will have lost as it must, since Good always prevails over evil.

That said and of my chest *checks front in mirror to ensure it is indeed of* I realize that you have been around for a long time now and never seem to cause any problems, ergo thou must be "respected" for this as it is really easy to succumb to the darkness [Linked Image].

Endure and persist and thou shall embrace the power of light <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Mea have you been reading W.S. latelly? <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/badsmile2.gif" alt="" />


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In what has become my forum manner...viper blast em with sarcasm!...I mean at least now you and I can start a club!

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if only faile is here then we can go crazy fun! <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/disagree.gif" alt="" />



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I think faile doesn't have much Internet access or time any more. I haven't seen her for a very long time and she has barely any time to write.

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I think she's busy, but, I wonder who it is Viper thinks is gone. I had 2 very good friends from these forums, one alot more then other though. Both of them have disappeared from msn and the forums, so I wonder if it was just about Viper of they just decided to leave the forums.

It may be someone totally different though, so, I donno.

Vipe's always seemed cool to me, why'd anyone make us some thing?


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it isn't faile if that's what you think, she left because of another person and with good reason. She isn't on MSN anymore because (that's what she said) she has wireless internet accees in the basement of her parents right now and the connection is too weak to handle MSN...

dunno if it's true, haven't seen her in ages now.

but i was tlking about someone else


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It's disturbing to think that stuff like this happens on this forum...

Don't leave because of it though...sort out this gossiper!

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But Lews, I'm still here <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/suspicion.gif" alt="" />...

An where are you, I thought I never see YOU around here very often nowadays...

And if anyone ever get to talk to failie, tell her to draw a temporal wire 24/7. That's what I did <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/biggrin.gif" alt="" />.

Oh, and to be just a little on topic: It still su... it is still very saddening, that this kind of thing happens on our forum... It is!

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