This is a deep cultural difference I suspect.
I rather think you are over-analyzing there a bit...
Interpret it like this: If there is fighting in the game - and there will be - why not make it nice part of the game? The fact that you don't like fighting doesn't mean that it has to be a very boring part of the game because then those who don't have a problem with fighting in a game would be treated worse than you.
I do think that if there is fighting it should be done nice... so that you actually don't detest using that means. However, the problem is more like "How does it have to be?" rather than "Should fighting be nice or not?"
