How does my character even get put in the crystal??? I just teleport to it?

Further, Damian's many appearances throughout the game would have sense if he was in on the ruse. But the game clearly states EVEN DAMIAN HAD NO IDEA what Ygerna was manipulating. So they missed a chance right there to have the story make more sense. Damian could have killed the main character at any time, yet keeps letting the PC get away ... it's not like Damian has a care for sparing life.

The only way Damian sparing the PC makes sense is for him to have been in on it. But he wasn't as the game clearly tells us.