Well, we seem to disagree on a fundamental level.
I don't find it excusable for RPGs to have poor combat, and sadly the big majority of them do. Coincidentally, the only ones that don't, use turn-based systems. Now, you might think that's a coincidence, but I don't think so.
No, it's called subjective opinion. There's nothing objective about your selection of which games have good combat. I'm sure all those games you think have good combat I see as having crappy combat. For example, the D:OS games have the worst combat system I have ever seen in a video game. ToEE's combat system is pretty shitty too.