Yeah, I “ignored” games that I haven’t actually played. Shame on me. And I compared one of the games you brought up with the latest Larian game. I’m sorry, I wasn’t aware that only comparisons you want to make are valid.
BTW, I just had a look at some Dark Souls footage. Seems there is sometimes a little bit of swooshing effect. It’s quite subtle (except for specific magical weapons) and I didn’t even remember it was there at all. Hardly seems core to the feel of the game to me.
Skyrim though. You have to admit that’s a terrible example to argue that aiming for a degree of realism is bad.