I love that you've tagged the heavily modded Skyrim with complete lore-unfriendly... well... everything, which does not exist in the vanilla game whatsoever. Something like TERA Online or BDO would have been more appropriate. I'm pretty sure with the ease of modding this game Baldur's Gate 3 Nexus will turn into Skyrim Nexus very soon.
On the topic, I don't actually mind sexy clothing. Just make it look the same for both genders. A bit of cleavage would not hurt.
There are three things that are strength incarnate: there is love of life, there is fear of death, and there is family. A family that loves death would have a strong pull indeed.