As has been pointed out, all sources prior to 3e confirm that male Drow can be Lolth clerics.

The 2e Menzoberranzan play aid notes that Lolth does not trust men as clerics ( believing them more likely to be agents of other deities ), and instructs that they be continually used in dangerous assignments in the service of Lolth until they die. As a consequence, it also notes that few male clerics survive beyond 4th Level.

As far as I can recall, the Drow were invented by Gygax for his ADnD Greyhawk campaign setting, very loosely based on the folklore Trow/Dtrow derived from DokkAlfar of Norse mythology. They appeared in 7 early adventure modules ( G1, G2, G3, D1, D2, D3, and Q1 ), all of which I have...somewhere.

The Drow did not originally exist in Ed Greenwood's Forgotten Realms, and so were retrofitted. So, it is likely that the original concept has changed over time.