I played the original series with auto-pause selected for everything. It was basically like playing a turn based here. For Baldur's Gate 3, I would just be happy with a workable player controlled pause. No, Escape doesn't pause everything. No, turn based mode doesn't pause everything. For reasons that baffle me, they've created the Divinity engine and refuse to update it to allow any player controlled pausing. Modders aren't even able to fix this.