Overall, I can understand your indignation, I also love to create characters that are similar to myself.
But I do not see the point in changing the appearance of the races "for myself". It seems to me that this may violate lore.
In addition, in the FR setting, there are already dark-skinned elves - wild elves.
They are also much larger than other elves. Heh, it seems to me that one of Irenicus's ancestors was one of them.

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