I feel like most of the posters in this thread didn't even READ the original post. Not all of it. I think a lot of them just saw the topic and immediately started reacting based on their pre-conceived ideas. Or if they did read it, they did so with a profound lack of empathy.
Go back and read what Saturdiva actually wrote. Do you really have no sympathy for her, or the other people in her shoes?
This isn't about "outrage", "cancel culture", "being woke", "politics", or anything like that. OTHER people make it about those things. This is a plea on behalf of a real group of people (represented by Saturdiva) to have their personal feelings and desires recognized. And you all just want to attack it, thoughtlessly. You just don't get it, or you don't WANT to get it, and it makes me sad.
And I think it's likely that there's more going on in your subconscious motives for doing so than just pure concern for the inviolability of The Lore™.
I did in fact i suggested the OP to play a Wood Elf. Those are the ones that look actually what she is looking for. You can see the first picture i posted the elf after the drow. And yes if Astarion is an high elf. (Sun Elves Moon Elves) then even his face is wrong.
"Wood elves were easily identifiable by their coppery skin and green, brown, or hazel eyes. Wood elven hair was usually black or brown, although hues such as blond or copper red were also found. Wood elves tended to dress in simple clothes, similar to those of the moon elves but with fewer bold colors and a greater number of earth tones that blended into their natural surroundings. Accustomed to a harsh, naturalistic lifestyle, wood elves loved to wear leather armor, even when they were not under immediate threat. Wood elves were roughly identical to other elves in height and build, with males larger than females.
Wood elves were often stronger than other Tel-quessir, including other elves, but were frequently less cerebral than moon and sun elves, who put a greater value on education."
I also stated several time i understand her and in fact it is why i say elven head needs to follow more the source materials.