I have over 200 hours gameplay of BG3 and how could shove possibly be the problem that is reported here+ I have never seen anything close to it. Sure AI uses it a few times but it's really really not that much. Just use better positioning if you want to avoid getting pushed into lava, really. It adds a new tactical layer whcih is just good, and the AI definitely doesn't spam it like you make it seem, or I'm playing a whole different game.
You are absolutely right.
The level of exaggeration about how bad Shove is has reached a comical level, in my opinion. It's not unbalanced or game breaking.
To listen to some of these folks, I'm surprised they ever finished getting off the Nautiloid, much less defeating Nere.
Of course, in my opinion, the anti-shove stuff is all nosebleed hyperbole and rhetoric.
