That's a bit why I posted the question. I didn't see it listed elsewhere as a bug (not that I searched too hard, it just didn't show up in the search engine), but I didn't think that sending something back and then not finding it as being "OK, it's just part of the story".
It would indeed be pretty bad if someone sent back something important and didn't know they wouldn't get it back until much later. I'd think it could botch some of the early quests like that. And it is a bit annoying to have the option, yet not be able to use it. So yup, consider this a bug report then, I've had the "send to homestead" option pretty much since I received the Homestead.